Last Sunday night Jayden could not sleep because he had fluid building up in his lungs. Alison steamed the bathroom and we put a lot of vicks on his feet... (PS that really works well, the feet get hot and then the vapors move up, plus it keeps the rub away from his nose and chest.) The next couple of days went better... but we got him a prescription for steroids. These caused Jayden to have a lot of energy.
The problem was how we handled the energy. Jayden could never calm down. He always was moving and was staying up until 11 at night. I had to stay with him a couple of nights just so he would stay in bed. One time I held him for 10 minutes trying to get him to listen to me. Alison and I both were worried that Jayden was starting a defiant role. It was not until I saw him on Wednesday in bed that I got it. Jayden could not stop his arms from moving,,, in bed his arms were just going and going and going. I saw what the medication had done to him. He was telling us no and that he could not calm down because he could not.
This is not some revelation telling you that medications are bad, because that is not true. We have been blessed by doctors giving us some anti-biotic and other various meds that have helped clear ear infections and other various illness that have plagued our children. In fact the steroids did help clear out his lungs.
Medication is not the point of this blog,,, what is, is that when I realized that I was the problem with my son, my whole outlook changed. We took him off and there was our son. The one that is happy and loves to play trains and was glad to see us and showed us that he knew the numbers on the clock etc...
Since that time I have reflected on how lucky I am that my son is who he is. He makes life memorable and interesting. He makes me laugh and he is active. He has little intricacies that makes him Jayden.
For example that past couple of weeks, Jayden comes home and goes up stairs and plays with his train sets. He loves his set... Then he comes down and wants something to drink. When you are working on something, he always asks "What are you doing?". He loves working on his tires of his cars. He will not stand in line... etc....
Jayden and Kallee had a good time at the gym on Saturday night... Jayden just loves that there are so many things to do... He ran and ran and jumped and swung and slid and was happy, just plain happy.
As a parent you think that your job is to tell your children what to do. For me, Jayden just needs guidance. Because he is going to grow up a fine young man. He will ask me questions and watch diligently everything around him. He has taught himself to read time between 7-10 at night because he does not want to go to bed before the 9. He has learned letters, pointing to the letter O on the page. He wrote a J last week, Line with a Loop under it.
Not being prefect is okay.. not learning from your mistakes is unforgivable. Especially when it comes to your children.. I promise both of my children that I will always learn to be a better parent.
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